The Process: Thursday, January 21, 2016
If meeting Collette Baron Reid was a missed connection advert on craigslist (and it almost was) it would read:
“You with the Green Eyes who saw right into my soul at the Coffee Shop. It was around 12PM when we made eye contact. I knew you were a soul mate and I think you felt it too. Message me and tell me what I was wearing so I know it’s you.”
Thankfully, Collette was brave enough to interrupt my meeting to tell me that I had “such a handsome face” and “beamed positive energy.” I thanked her with a smile and extended my hand. The moment she touched me her expression changed to what seemed like panic.
“If you’re open to it, you need a reading” she proclaimed.
My inclination was to deflect the “crazy” of this situation but when I opened my mouth to speak only one word was uttered… “Yes.”
It was Friday afternoon and she asked me to meet her at the same coffee house at 10:15 on Sunday. As she walked out the door she glanced back and emphasized,
“you do need this reading.” Apprehension began to set in as the hours passed. “What on earth is this woman going to tell me?” “Why do I NEED a reading?” As Sunday approached my nerves were growing.
Getting ready on the morning of our meeting was unmistakably charged with energy.
I went to the coffeehouse, grabbed an iced latte, and sat down with Colette. She explained that she would not look me in the eyes, she would probably write and draw on the piece of paper in front of her, and was NOT going to tell me my future only give me guidance for my present.
“I do not predict things, that said, IF I make a prediction it will almost certainly come true, in fact, I would stand naked with my cellulite hanging out in front of all of Times Square if it does not. Ready to begin?”
Sixty seconds later I was in tears. 15 seconds after that so was Colette.
“You have spent your whole life healing from the addiction and abuse in your family and you really have healed yourself, so how did you end up in a long term partnership with an addict?” she asked.
I was so shocked I wouldn’t have been able to speak even if I wasn’t choking on tears.
“He is head over heals in love with you, he just can’t show it because he is sick. It’s not your fault and you CANNOT save him so just give that up already. His departure from your life will work itself out so don’t worry about that anymore. Get ready to take a step back because your life is so filled with joy except that you spend so much time building one-sided relationships with people who will suck you dry.”
Colette went on to tell me that I have spent my life living inside a proverbial glass box looking at the world.
“Charles,” she adamantly uttered “You see all the potential, and the playfulness, and the opportunities to connect and create joy in the world for people. You just watch other ‘leaders’ going about things traditionally and you scream and jump from inside that glass box trying to tell everyone how amazing the world can be but no one can hear you. It’s frustrating.”
I listened, nodding my head, tears streaming down my face. This woman, this stranger, touched on my deepest vulnerabilities eloquently.
“You are going to break out of the glass soon, very. First you need to go on the journey to find your inner light.”
Colette also told me I would do something on stage within the next year and this experience would lead to something on television. She bet her life I would win an Emmy Award. (I will not hold her to her promise; no streaking in Times Square Colette!)
In revisiting this story I wonder if Colette knew that she made the first crack in the glass box.
At the end of the reading Colette turned to me and said “you’re a loner who doesn’t like asking for help… but you know something kiddo, I’m gonna help you… I’m gonna be your, um, ” her eyes lit up “Fairy G-d Mentor.”
That chance meeting with Colette got me thinking about how to find my inner light.
When I arrived home that afternoon I googled Colette only to find out she is a world renown spiritual leader, speaker, and best selling author who charges upwards of $800 per hour for her readings.
Over the next year I ended my eight year relationship, resigned from my job, travelled alone to eleven countries, wrote/produced/starred, in a one man show in a nearly sold out 2100 seat concert hall (one of Colette’s predictions), The Smith Center for the Performing Arts (complete with 30 piece orchestra, little prince inspired sets, and fundraising for three charities), broke my ankle in three places (non-weight bearing for three and a half months), wrote a book, relearned how to walk, moved back to New York from Las Vegas, and began trying to find a literary agent.
Colette was the first person to help me. She gave my book to the Vice President of Hay House and her agent at William Morris, lauding me in the highest regard. Hay House’s response was lovely but ultimately I was not a fit for them.
Months of searching for an agent can be grating and discouraging. I’ve felt completely lost since August. I’m rebuilding my whole life from scratch and even though it’s fun, it’s also terrifying. Colette is always there to tell me that my voice is important for the world and that the right people and opportunities will arrive. Fairy G-d Mentor indeed.
The other day my friend Nina told me that whilst attending a speaker series, one of the speakers, Gabby Bernstein told a story about Colette. The gist is that Gabby was not sure what to do about a piece of real estate, Colette told her to pick a symbol and watch out for it. Gabby chose an owl and low and behold owls began appearing all over.
This reminded me that we all always have our own answers. Sometimes we need a bit of outside validation as a reminder. I’m not lost. I’m on my path. All around me there are signs. The universe sent me Colette for goodness sake, what more could I ask as a sign? Waking up, exploring options, proactively seeking opportunities, and savoring the journey proves I’m on my path. I need to stop telling myself I’m lost, I’m not lost at all, I’m perfectly where I need to be.
When I broke my ankle I learned something about process. As I lay in a bed all day with an elevated, swollen, atrophied, limb; it seemed like nothing was happening. For months it seems as though the injury was stagnant and may never heal. Then one day, three months later, the Doctor handed me a boot, took away my crutches, and announces “well, you can walk outta here. ”Walk?!” “I haven’t walked in almost four months!” Evidently, while it appeared nothing was happening the most important part of the process was unfolding… healing.
The time is here. It’s happening right now. The destination doesn’t exist and before you walk you crawl, before you run you walk. The path is pretty darn cool, the signs are everywhere, and sometimes all you need is a reminder: YOU are doing GREAT!
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